What are Your Core Values?

Even though a little late, since this is my first post for 2018, I think it’s just apt that I write about something that can guide you in knowing yourself more this year. Whatever that means! Haha! 😛 After all, in life, there are things we value and then those we don’t. But even the things we do value also have different levels of “importance” or “significance,” depending on our background, character, personality, etc. As we go through life, we continuously change — and through this, hopefully we grow and mature. As I transitioned last year in a new “season” in my life, I realized that it gave me a lot of lessons, including being firm and fighting for the things I value overall. And of course, in order to understand other values, I had to put importance first to the one I ought to highly value:

MYSELF. ❤

It’s also helpful that I’ve been reading some books that help me understand myself and others more. I’ll make some time to share with you the books that helped me in my journey, but for now, I’ll share with you these two:

This book speaks more about my professional life. I was able to read this because my (dream) workplace supplied it to me and my colleagues. We were given a copy each (yay!), and we were required to read it and take the exam in the end to assess what our strengths are. Basically, the book teaches people to focus on our strengths instead of wasting a lot of time trying to make a strength out of our weaknesses. Simply put, it’s like me focusing on my passion for the written word more because that’s something I know I’m great at, rather than getting frustated at endless numbers for something when I know I can just hire someone to do the job for me (I hate math, and the feeling’s mutual for math! Haha!).

My top five strengths (based on the exam) are 1) Connectedness (relational), 2) Input (strategic), 3) Context (strategic), 4) Belief (executing / executive), and 5) Positivity (relational). So I’m like half relational, half strategic, with a sprinkle of executing / executive. When I understood what each strength meant, I wasn’t surprised. It’s sooo me! Then again, if you want to know what these strengths really are, I highly suggest you also get a copy of the book and take your own exam. 😉

This book speaks more about my personal life. I’ve heard about the “five love languages” since time immemorial, but it was only in 2015 when I first took the quiz. I took it again after more than a year, and if there’s one thing consistent about my results, my primary love language has always been 1) Quality Time. Next are 2) Acts of Service, 3) Words of Affirmation (this used to be my second, which just means that people change! haha), 4) Gifts, and 5) Touch (I really am not a touchy person! Wahahahaha!).

my love language/s

The book was originally written for married couples, so I’m glad that the author, Gary Chapman, wrote a version for singles like me. Aside from being helpful in romantic relationships, understanding the five love languages also helps all kinds of relationships — family, friends, and even God (there’s another version of the book that’s about God and the love languages!). Interestingly enough, the author also has other books and quizzes about one’s apology and anger languages! I also read and took them, and I can say that they’re really, really helpful!! So thanks, Mr. Chapman!!! 🙂

After reading and even taking assessments, the hardest will always be the application IRL. Having knowledge is one thing; acquiring wisdom is another (I’m a firm believer in the saying, “Intelligence without wisdom is destructive.”). When I reflected about what my core values are as a person overall (as in not just me as a professional or lover, but more of me as a daughter, sister, aunt, friend, etc.), I came up with my Top 10! Hahaha! Sure, I came up with that list on my own, without any company-certified tests, but I believe that aside from the One from up above, the only one who knows me best is yes… ME. 😀

But of course I won’t share with you my entire Top 10 for brevity’s sake! If you’re close to me, I can just share it with you in person some other time! (To my best friend and tesh, Nour, are you ready?! Mwahahahahaha!)

Anyway, I’ll be sharing only my Top 3 Core Values. They are:

1) Love – Love in all forms, not just “romance.” This includes love for my family, my friends, and yes, myself. Most especially, this core value of mine speaks about the kind of love that’s like Jesus‘ — the most difficult one to follow, yet the most fulfilling one at the same time as well!

2) Faith – I’m a devout and practicing Roman Catholic Christian. I was born one, and I’d die one. But no, I don’t claim to be perfect — in fact, I’m far from being one! That’s why I need Jesus. That’s why my faith is truly, madly, and deeply important to me. This also includes my advocacy on chastity / purity — which I already wrote here.

3) Hope – My description of this core value can be summed up in four words: positive. outlook. in. life! Those people who really know me can testify that I have a very positive outlook in life despite all the setbacks/trials that come my way. Even my strengths showed “positivity” in it! Need I say more?

Love. Faith. Hope. Sounds familiar? Well, yes. Just read the book of 1 Corinthians in the Bible, and you’ll come across those words in a different order. Those are my Top 3! I can only hope and pray that I’ll be given the strength to always execute these in my life properly, and if not, be humble enough to never stop learning from my mistakes and shortcomings. 🙂

“And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love.”
-1 Corinthians 13:13

How about you? Do you know what your core values are?
And are you willing to be firm and fight for them?

Two Words for 2017: THANK YOU!

Tell you what. I actually consider 2017 as my BEST YEAR. And for that, I am THANKFUL! 🙂

When I say “best year,” I didn’t mean an easy-going year. In fact, 2017 had been the most difficult year in my entire adult life so far. The first half of the year (which is evident in my #hugot-filled blog posts in those months! haha) was a very dark time… But it’s true that there’s always a rainbow after the rain. By God’s grace, that dark time was gradually replaced by His light, and slowly but surely, everything in my life just started to fall into place, including my healing — not just of my broken heart, but my entire brokenness as a person that I haven’t addressed in years! I’m not going to detail those anymore because at this point, I’d feel like a broken record if I still did so. I guess I’ll just repeat what I always say: that the trials I faced this year were always accompanied by blessings and lessons that helped me be the best version of myself today.

And what are those blessings and lessons? 😉

In no particular order, they are:

My travels.

In my year-ender blog post last 2016, I mentioned about my “travel year” — the time when I travel as much as I can using my own hard-earned money and making the most out of my work leaves and holidays. I said that my “travel year” happens every four years, which means if 2016 was a travel year for me, then the next should’ve been in 2020. Anyare? Hahaha! Well, obviously, God had better plans for me this 2017 (He always has!), and His provisions for my life this year was beyond what I could imagine — including my opportunity to travel again to six countries I haven’t been to before! So yes, my travels are part of God’s blessings to me this 2017. And for that, I am thankful!

my 2017 travels

My faith ministries.

My faith life has deepened and improved A LOT this 2017, and that’s thanks to the Light of Jesus Family (LOJF)’s The Feast, The Light of Christ (TLC)’s deliverance ministry and healing seminars headed by the Society of the Divine Word (SVD), and of course, the Pope and the Roman Catholic Church as a whole (I was looking for “answers,” and I stumbled upon some of them by self-studying the faith and religion I was born into, which is the Catholic Church — but that’s for another blog entry altogether!). So yes, my faith ministries are part of God’s blessings and lessons to me this 2017. And for that, I am thankful!

My family and friends.

For some unexplainable reason, God really knows when to send people my way at a time when I need them the most. Of course, my family’s already a given — I’ll forever be grateful for them. But for all the friends I met and reconnected with this 2017 (this includes the ones in my faith ministries mentioned above), THANK YOU! You are all part of God’s blessings to me this year — each and every one of yoouuu! ❤

God’s LOVE.

Ah! This one. This is probably the highlight of my 2017. Sure, I know (we all do) that God loves all of us unconditionally any time of the year, all day, every day, 24/7. But there’s something about this particular year that had made me feel God’s love for me all the more. There were times His love was manifested through the people He sent my way, but there were also times that I just literally knew it was Jesus Himself — for real! Whatever way He manifested His love to me this 2017, in the past, and in the coming years (Hello, 2018!!!), no words are enough to express how much I feel unworthy, yet still so, so, sooo GRATEFUL for God’s mercy and love! And for that, the least I can do for Him is offer my life to Him, that it may always bring honor and glory to His name, and that I may always follow His will — no matter how difficult it is to me sometimes.

You were, are, and will always be the best thing in my life, Jesus! And I wouldn’t trade anything, as in anything, for You!! For that, I surrender my entire 2018 to You and You alone, Jesus!!! Let Your will be done. In Your mighty name, AMEN.

Yes, 2017 was my best year… SO FAR. Not to worry, though. I have a feeling na hindi naman papatalo si 2018 eh! Apir!

A BLESSED AND HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL OF YOU! 😀

Remember, be thankful always.

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“give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”
-1 Thessalonians 5:18

Featured Traveler: Em in the “Land of (Fire and) Ice”

I started my (travel) blog project all the way back in 2012, wherein I feature different travelers who have been to unique destinations OR have unique experiences in familiar places. Even though there were “hiatus” years in between (check it out here! haha), this blog project has been an on-going one — and will be so in the years to come! 😉

Sooo, to kick-start this again and inspire you to reach for your travel goals this coming 2018, I’m sharing with you a wanderer — her name’s Mzarriz, but we’ll call her Em for short in the entire post — who has recently been to one of my dream destinations: ICELAND!

Em in Vatnajokull, Iceland

But first, just a quick background. How did all this traveling start for Em? She shared, “In 2005, I was a flight attendant without previous experience of traveling internationally. When I finally earned my free tickets as part of my company benefits, I immediately used it and traveled to Bangkok, Thailand — my first international travel, and I was with my fellow flight attendants. We were so excited, quite unassuming and super tipid! Our last meal there was even nilagang mais that we bought in the streets because we no longer had money. I overly enjoyed the sightseeing, shopping, and bonding with my friends. We tried the food, got lost a number of times, watched a live adult show in Phat Pong, and roamed around numerous temples and thrift markets. It was definitely fun!” Em sure did have a lot of fun during that trip and since then, she told herself that she’ll continue to explore and see the world. She said, “Traveling, for me, is really addictive and exhilarating. The feeling of stepping onto an unknown place for the first time with a promise of discovery and appreciation has inspired me to go to a place I’ve never traveled to before at least once a year.”

After almost 13 years since that first international flight, Em has been to more than 33 countries already. This includes countries from the six continents: Africa (Egypt), Asia (China, India, Indonesia, Japan, Kuwait, the Philippines, Saudi Arabia, Singapore, South Korea, Taiwan, Thailand, and the United Arab Emirates), Oceania (Australia and New Zealand), North America (Canada and the United States), South America (Brazil), and Europe (Denmark, Finland, France, Germany, Iceland [of course!], Italy, Monaco, the Netherlands, Norway, Spain, Sweden, Switzerland, Turkey, the United Kingdom, and the Vatican).

All of Em‘s travels are a combination of both work and play. For Iceland, though, it was definitely all “play” because it was a personal trip. She mentioned, “My friends and I went to Iceland last October 2017 as part of our annual vacation leave. We flew to Reykjavik [Iceland] from Los Angeles (LA) [USA]. The fare was much cheaper than the ones coming from the Middle East or Europe, that’s why we decided to go via LA. We had free tickets from Manila to LA, anyway. Then we went around Iceland via a rented car. After exploring Reykjavik, we went to Vik, then Hofn, and back to Reykjavik again. We spent two days and nights in Reykjavik, and one day and night each for Vik and Hofn. We stayed in rented houses we found via Airbnb. Fortunately, Iceland is one of the safest countries to visit, and all of our hosts were very accommodating and gracious.”
So what were the places Em and her friends explored in the “Land of Fire and Ice” that you can visit, too?
While in Reykjavik, go to:
Thingvellir National Park

Em in Thingvellir National Park

Gulfoss Waterfall

Gulfoss Waterfall

Geysir National Park

Em in Geysir National Park

Blue Lagoon

Em in the Blue Lagoon

Travel tip on the Blue Lagoon: “Book early — as in weeks early! Based from our experience, we booked three days before and, the only slot available to us was at 8PM. Kaya ayan, madilim na tuloy sa Blue Lagoon, parang nasa pool lang sa Pansol, Laguna. LOL.”
While on route from Reykjavik to Vik, stop by:
Seljalandsfoss Waterfall

Em in front of the Seljalandsfoss Waterfall

Skogafoss Waterfall

Em in Skogafoss Waterfall

Solheimajokull Glacier

Em basking in the Solheimajokull Glacier

Solheimasundur Plane Wreck

Em and her friend on top of the Solheimasundur Plane Wreck


While on route from Vik to Hofn, visit:
Reynisfjara Beach

Reynisfjara Beach is part of one of the settings for Game of Thrones (GOT)’s Dragonstone

Halsanefshellir Cave (also in Reynisfjara, where the dragon glass in GOT is mined)

Jokulsarlon and Vatnajokull Glacier Lagoons

Em in the Jokulsarlon Glacier Lagoon

Diamond Beach

Diamond Beach is just on the opposite side of the Glaciers

Em in Diamond Beach

While on route from Hofn (then back to Reykjavik), don’t miss out on:
Kerid Volcano Crater in Selfoss

Em standing on the Kerid Volcano Crater in Selfoss

Eldhraun Lava Field

Em sitting pretty on the Eldhraun Lava Field (moss-covered lava rocks)

And after all those breathtaking photos, wonder where’s the most sought-after Northern Lights? Well, Em saw the Aurora Borealis (or the Aurora for short) in Hofn, too! She explained, “The experience that left us the biggest impact when we traveled to Iceland was seeing the Northern Lights. I admit, it’s in my bucket list. A colleague of mine went to Iceland before and never had a glimpse of the Aurora. Another friend of mine who has been to Iceland three times saw the Aurora every time she went there. So seeing it is a combination of luck, timing, and persistence. We were actually nervous that we won’t be able to see it because it was cloudy most of the time in Iceland during our stay. Luckily, on our fourth night, we actually saw it when we drove just 10 minutes from the house that we were staying in at Hofn. And we saw it three times in a span of three hours.

a glimpse of the Northern Lights (a.k.a Aurora Borealis) in Hofn, Iceland

“The Aurora was simply breathtaking. It’s actually magic happening in front of my eyes. At first it was just a mere glimpse of moving laser lights hiding beneath the clouds. And then it mightily showed itself covering widely enough the sky above us, swirling, dancing, and sparkling for more or less than 20 seconds.

more sightings of the Aurora in Hofn, Iceland

“It might be short, but it was good enough for us to admire it endlessly. That experience somehow miraculously connected my soul to the universe and made me realize how small I am in a universe so vast, yet worthy enough to witness one of its manifestations of power. A beauty like that will never be equaled by anything made even by the highest technology of mortals because I felt that it was created not because of pride, but because of love. It’s just once again an evidence of how powerful our omniscient Creator is. But also, more importantly, of how loving He is.”

more sightings of the Aurora in Hofn, Iceland

Whew, right? Em, sure, was lucky enough to experience the Aurora during her first trip to Iceland! But before you even go to Iceland (or any other country for that matter), what are Em‘s travel tips in general? Let’s take a look at ’em (no pun intended! haha):

  • Plan ahead – “You can save a lot of money and you will have better choices.”
  • Use a credit card (if applicable) – “Based on my last trip, using a credit card is better than having your US dollars exchanged for a lower rate (with commission pa most of the time).”
  • Stay at hostels – “Try urban and hip hostels that are cheaper compared to most hotels, but are also safe, modern, and located on strategic locations (near train stations, public transportation, or must-see sights).”
  • Pack wisely – “No matter how tired you are or your checked in baggage is limited, always consider your OOTDs [ladies, listen! haha]. Your pictures will say it all, and they will last for a lifetime (hopefully).”
  • Respect. ‘Nuff said. – “Always respect the culture and religion of the people. Respect animals and nature.”
  • Stick to your budget – “Consider all the expenses, and stick to your budget. Some optional tours offered by travel agents/tour guides are very expensive. If you do it on your own, it may be a little inconvenient, but you get to experience the place, explore, and save.”
  • Try the road less traveled – “Try to visit some sites that are actually not popular to tourists but offer a more intimate experience with the place. Like when we visited a Nubian village settled along the banks of the Nile in Egypt, we were able to stay in one of the families and shared dinner with them. We were also taken to a local school where we were taught basic Arabic language.”
  • Always look after your safety – “Traveling is so enjoyable and sometimes we forget that as travelers, we also attract people who don’t always look after our best interests. Take the movie Taken as an example! LOL.”

After all that has been said and done, why will Em continue to travel? She answered, “Traveling opens your eyes, your mind, and your heart to the good and bad, beautiful and ugly, fact and fiction, and oddly, to answers and more questions.

“The places I’ve seen only in the movies and imagined through the books I read when I was young came alive when I saw them in my travels. They made me think that they weren’t just mere inventions of bored minds but actual and real places! And every place has a story! That’s the beauty of it. And as cliche as it may sound, yes, the world and our life are like a book and when we do not travel, we read only a few pages. Traveling is learning. And though we may not know all the answers, I guess it’s enough to know that there are answers. And maybe when I travel again, I might stumble into one.”

Well said, Em! And from one traveler to another, here’s to finding answers to some of life’s trivial questions, all thanks to wandering!! Carpe diem!!! ❤


For more of my other featured travelers on this blog, click HERE.