Happy on Valentine’s Day

February 14, 2017

February 14, 2017

What Popoy Didn’t Tell You
By the time you read this, I’m probably in a yoga studio somewhere calming my mind, body, and soul (yes, this is a scheduled post! haha!) which has been what I’ve been doing after work on Tuesdays (because I’m still a beginner, and the beginners’ class always falls on this day!). Coincidentally, hearts’ day this year also falls on a Tuesday — TODAY. So why am I in a yoga studio instead of a date?

Well, simply because after four years, it’s my first time to be single again on Valentine’s Day!

And I can spend it the way I want to — with myself, stress-free! 😉

February’s actually the third month since me and my ex called it quits, but NO, contrary to what Popoy of One More Chance fame believed about the three-month rule, I’m NOT ready to date again as of this writing — unless it’s a date with myself, sisters/nieces, trusted friends, and yes, God! 🙂 But in fairness to Popoy‘s “rule,” though, what I got from it is that everything suddenly feels and gets better once I hit the third month! The first two were so hard and hurtful (but that’s for another post! haha), and I just want to give a shout-out to my amazing and trusted support system — you all know who you are!!! So to all my fellow brokenhearted ladies and gents (oh, you’d be surprised how the latter part of 2016 became a “breakup season” in my circle), kapit lang! Lilipas din ‘yan, mga besh!!!

Because You Can’t Give What You Don’t Have
This 2017, I’m so determined to focus on my complete healing and improving myself and the other relationships in my life that I’ve “taken for granted” while I was still in a relationship, that even if I’m single again, as early as now, I already find my planner fully booked (especially the weekends) until the third quarter of this year! Let’s just say that one of the things I’m looking forward to is my return to my “favorite continent” in the next half of this year. 😀 That’s why I really can’t be feeling S.A.D. anymore and just be excited about everything in store for me this 2017! Why? Because despite the heartbreak, God has been continuously faithful with all His plans and promises to me. I can now even attest that the breakup was just one tiny little part in His grand plan for me (and my ex)! In fact, wherever my ex is now, I wish him well. I hope he’s also truly happy and working on his own healing. But more than that, I hope he can finally and really accept God and His love for him, too. It’s really amazing what a few months can make the brokenhearted realize. 😛

The fact that I’m brave enough to embrace my singleness again on this overrated day (haha!) proves how far I’ve come and how much unexplainable strength has been given to me by the One up above. And because of this, I deserve a pat on the back — which I’ll give myself after yoga class! Wahahahaha!

His Perfect Love
Seriously though, with all the blessings and lessons I continuously get from God, I’d be the one breaking His heart if I didn’t celebrate this day with LOVE. Besides, who said that love can be only expressed romantically? Quality love is everywhere, and this includes self-love. But perfect love? Even couples and families in healthy relationships can’t give that to each other. That’s why we can’t “look” for perfect love in others lest we’ll end up frustrated. Perfect love has only one source — the One and Only: God.

God is patient, God is kind. God does not envy, God does not boast, God is not proud. God does not dishonor others, God is not self-seeking, God is not easily angered, God keeps no record of wrongs. God does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. God always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres… Familiar? Yes, that’s from 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (the verse read by Mandy Moore‘s character in A Walk to Remember), and I just replaced the word “love” with “God.” Haven’t you ever wondered why we say “God is love”? Well, there’s your answer. This verse describes what perfect love is — God’s love. And though no human is perfect and we can’t give the kind of perfect love God can, we can always use this “love definition” as a guide in loving others. I wish I digested and executed this sooner! But like I said, it’s a lesson learned. And what better day to exercise this than on this day of hearts?! Try it. Change “love” to your name (e.g., Mika is patient, Mika is kind…), and see it change  your perspective. But make sure you practice it not just today, but every. single. day! Heehee.

#MayForever
Which brings us to the never-ending debate comparable to the chicken vs. the egg. Despite my heartbreak, I still believe that “there’s a forever” (#MayForever). I believe that even the people who “insist” that they don’t believe in forever still wish deep in their hearts to find their own version of “forever.” But in order to do that, they have to change their mindsets first because the mind is powerful — what you think eventually manifests in your “real life.” So if you keep thinking that there’s no forever (#WalangForever), eh malamang sa malamang, ganun nga ang mangyayari sa’yo. Your choice. That’s your own life and love story, anyway. Basta ako, naniniwala parin ako na #MayForever, and no human can make me believe otherwise! ❤ #JustSaying

But you know what’s more powerful than the mind? In fact, the most powerful of all — of course, God and His love. If you just truly, madly, and deeply got to know Him, you wouldn’t even dare to say #WalangForever. All your fears, especially about love, will be cast aside. Anyway, if that fact alone can’t give you happiness — the fact that we’re given by God with the capacity to love in all forms — then I pray that you receive His love first. Trust me, I don’t just believe, I also know (thanks to my experience!).

And that’s why I can proudly say that today, on Valentine’s Day, even if I’m single, I’m happy. In fact, I’m also peaceful — not just because of yoga, but more because of His love. I pray that you also accept and feel the love He gives, single or not.

Happy Valentine’s, y’all!
Celebrate all the love around you!!!
❤ ❤ ❤

“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”
-1 Corinthians 13:13

I would have what I want, but I wouldn’t know “Him”

waiting = knowing more of Him

Wait

Desperately, helplessly, longingly, I cried:
Quietly, patiently, lovingly God replied.
I pled and I wept for a clue to my fate,
And the Master so gently said,
“Child, you must wait.”
“Wait? You say, wait!” my indignant reply.
“Lord, I need answers, I need to know why!
Is Your hand shortened? Or have You not heard?
By faith, I have asked, and am claiming Your Word.

“My future and all to which I can relate
Hangs in the balance, and You tell me to WAIT?
I’m needing a ‘Yes,’ a go-ahead sign,
Or even a ‘No’ to which I can resign.

“And Lord, You promised that if we believe
We need but to ask, and we shall receive.
And, Lord, I’ve been asking, and this is my cry:
‘I’m weary of asking! I need a reply!'”

Then quietly, softly, I learned of my fate
As my Master replied once again, “You must wait.”
So, I slumped in my chair, defeated and taut
And grumbled to God, “So, I’m waiting… for what?”

He seemed, then, to kneel
And His eyes wept with mine,
And He tenderly said, “I could give you a sign,
I could shake the heavens, and darken the sun,
I could raise the dead, and cause mountains to run.

“All you seek, I could give, and pleased you would be,

You would have what you want —
But, you wouldn’t know Me.

You’d not know the depth of My love for each saint;
You’d not know the power I give to the faint;

“You’d not learn to see through the clouds of despair;
You’d not learn to trust just by knowing I’m there;
You’d not know the joy of resting in Me;
When darkness and silence were all you could see.

“You’d never experience that fullness of love
As the peace of My Spirit descends like a dove;
You’d know that I give and save, for a start,
But you’d not know the depth of the beat of my heart.

“The glow of My comfort late into the night,
The faith that I give when you walk without sight,
The depth that’s beyond getting just what you asked
Of an infinite God, who makes what you have last.

“You’d never know, should your pain quickly flee,
What it means that, ‘My grace is sufficient for thee,’
Yes, your dreams for your loved one overnight would come true,

But, oh, the loss if I lost what I’m doing in you!

“So, be silent, My child, and in time you will see
That the greatest of gifts is to get to know Me,
And though oft’ may My answers seem terribly late,
My most precious answer of all is still, “Wait.'”

(This poem originally appeared in
Wait: A journey to discovering the heart of God by Russell Kelfer,
and was excerpted from
Emotional Purity: An Affair of the Heart by Heather Arnel Paulsen)

Thanks to my friend, Tin, for sharing this excerpt (which eventually made me read the actual book! haha). Anyway, I believe you’ll agree with me when I say that the poem was so beautifully written, it’s unfair not to share it!

So yes, if you’re waiting for an “answer” from God, whatever that may be, I hope this poem somehow “answered” you for now. After all, nothing worth it ever comes easy in this life, so if you’re being “pruned” right now, just remember that you’re in good hands — God‘s hands!

In the meantime, while you’re still waiting, take advantage and get to know more of Him. Talk to Him. PRAY! What is He trying to teach or tell you? And then LISTEN — through your heart.

I wish you well, my friend. Stay patient and strong, and God bless!!! ❤

“The Lord is not slow in keeping His promise, as some understand slowness. Instead He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.”
-2 Peter 3:9

Why “FAITH” is Greater Than “fate”

WARNING: This wasn’t an “easy” post,
and you may NOT want to read this.
(But that doesn’t mean you don’t need it!)

Lately, I’ve been into words with the same sound when pronounced but have completely different meanings: homophones. Hello, Wordy and Worthy!? Haha! But the thing is, these words just suddenly appear in my head, complete with a realization or two. And these “epiphanies,” I’ve decided, are also worth sharing through the medium I know best: the written word.

FAITH > fate

This time, I thought about FAITH and fate. Two words, pronounced the same, but have very different definitions. If we’re going the literal route, here are dictionary-based descriptions:

faith

faith

fate

fate

I don’t know. I’ve always known the meanings of the two aforementioned words, but when I double-checked them on the dictionary, I was reaffirmed that the former has a more positive connotation, whereas the latter is the opposite. Hence my realization: FAITH is greater than fate. At least in this life, it’s better to have “FAITH” in God to lead you where you need to be rather than just believe that what happens to you, whether good or bad, is simply your “fate” — Period. Nada. Dead end. No lessons learned. Just empty acceptance. Confusing, no? Well, that’s what homophones do to you when they’re not “spelled” out. Here’s what I believe, though.

Acceptance is a good thing. But don’t settle for empty acceptance and just “blame” whatever happens to you on fate. Instead, strive to have FAITH that whatever happens to you, yes, good or bad, is all part of God’s grand plan in your life. But of course, this would apply to believers only. What if you’re an unbeliever or you belong to a different religious affiliation?

As a believer, I’ve had “others” question me on my belief. Why did I decide to stay in the Roman Catholic Church? Why do I believe in Jesus Christ? If so, why do I still sin? And more and more questions — all with the goal to try to “break” me.

I’m not going to answer all those questions because at the end of the day, I know what I believe in no matter what others say. However, I want to address the last question I mentioned.

For the last question, if I am so into my faith then why do I still sin?, my answer is, who hasn’t sinned? Now don’t give me “pilosopo”-cal answers. Even Saints have sinned! What’s more important is the awareness of those sins and the commitment to try to avoid doing them again. You see, the problem with us, humans, is we correlate “FAITH” and “religion” to our fellow humans. For example, if someone has “religious” parents, we try to question their parenting skills if somehow, one or all their children turn out to be unbelievers without thinking that even if that’s the case, the children have individual life experiences no matter how connected they are to their parents and vice versa. Another would be if you know someone who claims to be a “believer” and yet still shows un-Jesus-like traits, you would question if his/her belief is all for show — without thinking that yes, maybe, the person’s still struggling and still has to deepen his/her “FAITH” (but that’s not to say it’s all for show!). After all, it’s so easy to blame rather than understand, right? No! So no, we must change the way we correlate “FAITH” and “religion” to what other people do. Heck, we should also change the way we correlate “FAITH” with “religion.” Because no matter what, “FAITH” will still be greater. But as to know the difference, the discernment will only come from your own experience — experience that only God Himself can “gift” to you.

Yes, it all comes down to this: each has his/her own walk of FAITH. You can’t question or compare your walk of FAITH to others’ because you have different experiences. Forcing your belief (or lack thereof) to others will just create a counterproductive result. And that’s where difficult decisions and discernment come in.

As humans, we’ve all been told that experience is the best teacher. True. The same goes for spiritual experience.

Sometimes, spiritual experience is simply something unique to each person that it just can’t be described in words — there’s no other way to realize it but through experience. And if you meet a person who just can’t understand what your spiritual experience is, there’s no point in explaining it because he/she just won’t get it — all because he/she hasn’t experienced it.

It’s easy to exercise “FAITH” when things are going well in our lives. We thank God endlessly. But when God says “no” to a prayer? We tend to revert back to “fate” rather than “FAITH.” And sadly, that’s not real FAITH. Real FAITH is still praising and thanking God for ALL that’s happening in our lives, whether we like it or not. Real FAITH is about reflecting on what God’s making you realize through each good and bad event in our lives.

So when others try to question me, I think and remember that they don’t even know my whole story. Like my story involves both of my parents passing away while I was young, me being diagnosed late last year with a hormonal imbalance (thank God it’s manageable, though!), etc. And yet in all these, I’ve experienced God. I’ve experienced the way He has strengthened me and more in everything that I’ve been through. I’m stronger than they think. And if I made the hard decision to choose God despite everything, so be it.

But they won’t understand that. You, the one reading this, might not even fully understand what I’ve been rambling here. No, because my experience is mine.

I don’t know. Maybe I’m just tired…

But to my fellow believers, yes, FAITH. Focus more on that than fate. Focus more on that than religion. Pray to Jesus to guide you when the enemy tries (believe me, the enemy will always try!) to make you lost. Keep the real FAITH in Jesus Christ. Always.

“Then Jesus told him, ‘Because you have seen Me, you have believed; blessed are those who have not seen and yet have believed.'”
-John 20:29